“…it is clear that when adults praise children for seemingly inborn characteristics like being smart, it creates the opposite effect.  Children become less willing to take on challenges because they don’t want to risk losing their label of smartness.  Praising children for their effort and their strategies is much more effective.  Like happiness, self-esteem is a by-product of trying hard, making mistakes, failing and learning to go forward toward a goal.”

Full article “Success in Parenting – Avoiding the Happiness and Self-Esteem Traps” by Ellen Galinsky available here, published in the Huffington Post 07/05/2012

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